Unblock the Relationship and Open the Venus Gate to Reciprocity

Unblock the Relationship

By Ivy Integration

Many times we wish for a harmonic relationship but are blocking ourselves from it. The block is unconscious and therefore, difficult for us to decipher. We block ourselves from a harmonic relationship engaging in too many relationships or none at all. The unconscious block can steam from childhood and even past life. The block reveals itself to us by the relationships we are drawn to. Does the relationship bring us closer to play and friendship or confuse and imbalance us? We are drawn to certain relationships because we are not fully ready to receive or give. There are two realms of relationship, sabotage and receptivity or reciprocity. Sabotage is our inability to receive or give that which lights us up and blesses our life. 

Venus is the planet of receptivity and reciprocity. Venus is the Green Tara Frequency, which is about talents, harmonic expression of the divine, abundance through blessed living and lovely friendship. Sabotage and receptivity cannot be at once. We are one or the other. The one we feed to most prevails. Sabotage is lack vibration. I lack self esteem. I lack stability. I lack self love. I lack a positive childhood. Sabotage provides many reasons why we lack something in ourselves to receive and give a harmonic relationship. Receptivity is a generous vibration. I generously give myself people who are a blessing in my life. I generously say farewell to those who are not encouraging my Venus Gate of abundance. I generously allow myself to live honest and close to my heart. Sabotage is desperate, impatient, restless and unfulfilled vibration. It is always hungry for something but never feed. A relationship of sabotage pains us deeply because it is an injustice to our Venus Gate. The relationship doesn’t magnetize our heart bolder, lovelier or more authentic but conflicts with reciprocity. We compensate for the lack of reciprocity by over giving, avoiding, dragging out the relationship or settling. Receptivity is an overflowing generosity between two people. The Venus Gate is a give and take. Sabotage is a never ending hunger and lack. We are hungry for nutrients but cannot receive or give because our sabotage is unresponsive, unavailable and unsupportive.

Deciphering the block is empowering the sabotage on our Venus Gate. The common sabotage is an unresponsive, unavailable and unsupportive mate. These traits reflect a wounding we may carry from childhood or past life of lacking the nutrients of family or community response, availability and support to unlock our talented living. There is pain in the heart engaginh in an unresponsive, unavailable and unsupportive relationship because this lack vibration does not feed our talented living.

Reciprocity is a well nourished mind, body and spirit. For example, exchanging of mental, physical and spiritual energy for a harmonic relationship unlocks greater mental, physical and spiritual energy. A sabotaging relationship misaligns the mental, physical and spiritual energy. We all have a native mental, physical and spiritual rhythm and a relationship is a collaborator. When we view our partner as a collaborator for my talented living we recognize reciprocity in a relationship feeds inspiration for both people. Sabotage feels like a delay, stagnation or halt on our Venus Gate opening or talented living. Harmonic relationship isn’t simply a “paying the bills” or raising children together. Venus Gate is an opening of our talents and gifts. Receptivity is greater energy entering into our life through the relationship to help our heart experience emotional encouragement.

There is a collaborator to every soul rhythm. It is called the soul family. We are not designed as humans to open our heart alone that is why we yearn for companions. These collaborator mirror our mental, physical and spiritual rhythm but from a different perspective, life experience and personality. This supports the expansive of our mental, physical and spiritual rhythm but sabotage degrade or devalue our mental, physical and spiritual rhythm. We must ask ourselves. “Does this person I am giving myself to provide nutrients to my mental, physical and spiritual rhythm? Does this person I am giving myself to energize my life experience? Does this person I am giving myself to value my talent and gift? Does this person I am giving myself to generously expand my living naturally? Am I giving myself honestly and sincerely? Am I giving my talent to the relationship?” Many of us do not believe reciprocity or receptivity is real and that is the greatest sabotage, to engage in relationships that open no doors to greater generosity and receptivity.

The blocks we carry tucked away in our subconscious are difficult to experience in a relationship because the trauma of self-hatred, self-belittlement, self-neglect, self-judgment entraps our mental, physical and spiritual to unworthiness. Generosity and receptivity is a worthiness to experience the mental, physical and spiritual Venus Gate of talented living. Many of us unconsciously do not feel worthy to give and receive our heart belonging without pain because the sabotage requires pain to block the heart from generosity and receptivity.

How to reprogram the block to a harmonic relationship is first establishing a healthy relationship with the emotional well-being of the heart, learn its inner child, self esteem and compassion, second, is to amplify self-forgiveness to sooth the pain of childhood and lifetime sabotage on our divine good will to live fulfilled mentally, physically and spiritually, third, is to set a boundary for the heart to say NO to the unresponsive, unavailable and unsupportive relationships, finally, is to send off the relationships that are unclear, confusing and untrue so we can create space for the Venus Gate to infuse our heart with visions of the partner that heals our life. To stay the course, we must gather expanders, harmonic relationships from friends in happy relationships, movies about healthy relationships, etc., to encourage ourselves to remain clear and true to the talented living we are orchestrating for our immense healing of the heart.

Overall, the tribe is awakened when we are reciprocity in relationship. There is a communion with expression and discussion that deepens our listening, sexuality, creation, thinking and living. Without this depth a relationship becomes a conflict to the liberty of compassion. When expression and discussion through response, availability and support is receptive and generous the relationship liberates the conflict to our heart's peace. But, we cannot force something to be responsive, available or supportive to their heart resolution. We can love and love but relationship is reciprocity, a dance between generosity and giving. Before we can extend this out into a relationship we need to speak to the sabotage that doesn’t want to respond to the pain, be available to the pain or support the pains recovery and divinely open the Venus Gate to shower our life with talent to heal the unworthiness to give and receive.